The Words That Can't Be Shared: Exploring the Design of Unsent Messages
Michael Yin, Robert Xiao

TL;DR
This paper explores the phenomenon of unsent messages in digital communication, examining how their design influences emotional expression, reflection, and social dynamics.
Contribution
It introduces a novel investigation into unsent messages, highlighting how platform design impacts users' emotional and social experiences with unsent communication.
Findings
Unsent messages serve as emotional containers for suppressed feelings.
Design influences the emotional and ritualistic qualities of unsent messages.
Participants' reflections reveal tensions between social desires and communication actions.
Abstract
People often have things they want to say but hold back in conversations, fearing vulnerability or social consequences. Online, this restraint can take a distinctive form: even when such thoughts are written out - in moments of anger, guilt, or longing - people may choose to withhold them, leaving them unsent. This process is underexamined; we investigate the experience of writing such messages within people's digital communications. We find that unsent messages become expressive containers for suppressed feelings, where the act of writing creates a pause for reflection on the relationship and oneself. Building on these insights, we probe into how the design of the writing platforms of unsent messages affects people's experiences and motivations. Speculating with participants on nine evocative variants of a note-taking platform, we highlight how design shapes the emotional, temporal,…
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Taxonomy
TopicsInnovative Human-Technology Interaction · Digital Communication and Language · Language, Metaphor, and Cognition
