Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets
Elizabeth E. Bruch, M. E. J. Newman

TL;DR
This study analyzes online heterosexual dating markets in four US cities, revealing a clear hierarchy of desirability, gender-specific messaging strategies, and the impact of desirability differences on response rates, providing new empirical insights into online mate pursuit.
Contribution
It provides the first large-scale empirical analysis of online dating markets, quantifying desirability hierarchies and strategic behaviors across different cities.
Findings
Desirability hierarchies are consistent across cities.
Both genders pursue partners about 25% more desirable than themselves.
Response probability decreases sharply with desirability gap.
Abstract
Romantic courtship is often described as taking place in a dating market where men and women compete for mates, but the detailed structure and dynamics of dating markets have historically been difficult to quantify for lack of suitable data. In recent years, however, the advent and vigorous growth of the online dating industry has provided a rich new source of information on mate pursuit. Here we present an empirical analysis of heterosexual dating markets in four large US cities using data from a popular, free online dating service. We show that competition for mates creates a pronounced hierarchy of desirability that correlates strongly with user demographics and is remarkably consistent across cities. We find that both men and women pursue partners who are on average about 25% more desirable than themselves by our measures and that they use different messaging strategies with…
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